单选题 The differences between men and women 21 why they have different expectations about communication in marriage. For women, talk 22 intimacy. Marriage is an orgy (狂欢) of 23 : you can tell your feelings and thoughts, and still be loved. Women"s greatest 24 is being pushed away. But men live in a hierarchical world, 25 talk maintains independence and statue. They are on 26 to protect themselves from being put down and pushed 27 .
This 28 the paradox of the talkative man who said of his silent wife, "She"s the talker." In 29 settings, he feels challenged to 30 his intelligence and display his understanding. But at home, where he has 31 to prove and no one to defend against, he is free to remain 32 . For his wife, being home means she is free from the 33 that something she says might 34 someone, or spark disagreement, or appear to be showing off; at home she is 35 to talk. The communication 36 that endanger marriage can"t be fixed by mechanical engineering. They require a new conceptual framework about the 37 of talk in human relationships. Many of the psychological explanations may not be 38 , because they tend to blame either women (for not being assertive enough) 39 men (for not being in touch with their feelings). A sociolinguistic approach in 40 male-female conversation is seen as cross-cultural communication allows us to understand the problem and forge solutions without blaming either party.