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{{B}}Money and Love{{/B}} When the Romantic Movement was still in its first favor, it was a common matter of debate{{U}} (36) {{/U}} people should marry for love or for money. The young people concerned usually favored love, and their parents usually favored money. In the novels of the period the dilemma was felicitously (巧妙地) solved by the discovery,{{U}} (37) {{/U}}the last page{{U}} (38) {{/U}}the apparently penniless heroine was really a great heiress. But in real life young men{{U}} (39) {{/U}}hoped for this denouement (结局) were apt to be disappointed. Prudent parents,{{U}} (40) {{/U}}admitting that their daughters should marry for love, took care{{U}} (41) {{/U}}all the young men they met should be rich. This method was sometimes very successful; it was adopted, for examplem, by my maternal grandfather, who had{{U}} (42) {{/U}}romantic daughters, none of{{U}} (43) {{/U}}married badly. In these days of psychology the matter no{{U}} (44) {{/U}}looks so simple as it did eighty years ago. We realize now that money may be the cause, or part of the cause, of quite genuine love; of this there are notable examples in history. Benjamin Disraeli,{{U}} (45) {{/U}}became lord Beaconsfield,{{U}} (46) {{/U}}in his youth, poor and struggling and passionately ambitious. He married a rich widow, much{{U}} (47) {{/U}}than himself, and{{U}} (48) {{/U}}by the world to be rather silly. Owing{{U}} (49) {{/U}}her, he was able to make his career a success. A cynical world naturally assumed that he loved her money{{U}} (50) {{/U}}than he loved her, but in this the world was mistaken; through out the whole of their married life he was deeply and genuinely devoted{{U}} (51) {{/U}}her. I do not suppose he would have loved her if she had been poor when he first knew her, but the gratitude which he felt for help{{U}} (52) {{/U}}he owed to her kindly interest in him easily developed into a sincere affection. A great deal of affection is based upon the fact that its object is a help in{{U}} (53) {{/U}}the purposes of the person who feels it. Men in whom ambition is the leading passion are likely to love women{{U}} (54) {{/U}}assist them{{U}} (55) {{/U}}their career, and it would be very shallow psychology to suppose that the love is not real because it has its instinctive root in self-interest. |