单选题 Suppose you are in love with a great guy who happens to be twenty-two years older than you— you are thirty-one and he"s fifty-three. He"s been married and divorced, and has children not much younger than you are. You might ask your friends: "Am I being naive to think our age differences don"t matter?" Yes, you"re naive if you think your age differences don"t matter. They do, but so do all the other differences in your circumstances and personalities. So ignoring this issue, or any issue, won"t work, the more you insist that there aren"t any problems, the more you are probably suppressing your concerns for fear that they will sabotage the relationship. Both you and your partner need to honestly and directly face and discuss all the various problem that have emerged or could emerge round your age difference. Significant age differences between partners can cause serious problems in relationships. The word "significant" is important here. If your partner is four or five years older or younger, it won"t make much of a difference. However, if your partner is ten or more years older or younger than you, it can cause difficulties depending on your ages and other aspects of your personalities. I"ve found that age differences mean less as both partners get older. For instance, a fifteen-year age difference between a thirty-five-year-old man and a twenty-year-old woman will probably create more potential hazards than that age span in a sixty-five-year old man and a fifty-year old woman. The age difference will affect the first couple more, since their maturity and experience levels are usually much more dissimilar than the second couple"s. Here are the most common issues couples face when there is an age difference. If you are significantly older than your mate, you may lose patience with his level of immaturity, lack of life experience, and learning process. This will be especially true if your mate is between twenty and thirty years of age. After all, you"ve already gone through a lot of what she"s dealing with; you"ve realized it"s not the end of the world when you go through a crisis, because it always works out in the end; you"ve made mistakes and figured out how to do things the right way. So it"s not easy watching your younger partner stumble through these same life experiences. When you have ten, twenty or thirty more years of life experience than your partner has, you will find it next to impossible not to offer advice, correct, and direct him or her. After all, you"ve been through this before—you know the best way to do it. Of course your intentions are loving; you"re only trying to help. But the effect can be very destructive to your relationship. You begin acting like a parent and treating your partner like a child. Naturally, your mate feels as if you don"t trust her, you don"t respect her, and responds just like a rebellious teenager world—she becomes resentful and pulls away. And this parent-child game will quickly destroy the passion in your sex life, since your relationship starts taking on incestuous overtones. Most older partners have more financial stability, and therefore, more power in the relationship. You"ve had many more years to build up your income, purchase property and possessions, etc. This financial superiority can create tension between you and your partner in numerous ways—you may feel resentful about being the one who provides more, especially if you are a woman; you may feel like you should make the important decisions(what to spend, where to live, what kind of vacation to take because it"s your money, and your partner might not feel this is fair. You may have difficulty lowering your standards of living to accommodate your mate"s. All of the warning signs above add up to this one—it"s easy when you are much older than your partner to get into a power trip and become controlling. You have more money, success, experience and therefore it"s tempting to "pull rank" on your mate. If your mate is much younger, you may give up interests he or she doesn"t appreciate and take on habits that make you appear younger.

单选题 In order not to damage the relationship between partners, one may______.

单选题 The passage suggests that all the following may cause problems in partner relationships EXCEPT______.

单选题 It can be inferred that when a twenty-year-old partner comes across a serious crisis, he or she will probably______.

单选题 If you are much older than your partner,______.