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How to Create Healthier Anger in Your Children

    A. Anger often makes us uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable to witness and uncomfortable to feel. Witnessing your child's anger can be especially uncomfortable. In order to relieve this feeling, parents will often encourage children to 'stop crying' and say things like 'it's nothing to cry about.' It's moments like these that plant the seeds of unhealthy anger.
    B. The 'stop crying' parent is just doing what they were taught by their own parents, who were probably taught that by their parents, and on and on. While telling your child to 'stop crying' isn't emotional child abuse per se, your child may still need help with depression, addiction, or other issues later in life. This cycle can be stopped, however, if we learn how to create healthier anger in our kids, and in ourselves.
    C. To understand why stuffing emotions away is unhealthy, think of emotions like they are physical wounds. When you cut your finger, your body knows to tighten blood vessels and release white blood cells. In order to let your cut finger heal, you've got to let the body's natural process work. Like the body, the psyche knows what needs to happen to heal emotional wounds. To let your mind heal, you've got to let yourself go through a healing process as well. If you don't let yourself heal, whenever a similar event happens in your life, the old emotions will emerge and cause you pain. Until you learn to examine your feelings, retrieve their messages, and let them go, they'll act like cuts that never close.
    D. When we find our anger too uncomfortable to process and let go, we set that model for our children to copy. If a child never sees his or her parent express anger, the parent teaches that child that they, too, should never express anger. Or, if a parent always expresses their anger loudly and hurtfully, or there is a violent relationship between parents, the child may start to think of anger as something that is always frightening.
    E. The first thing you can do to create healthier anger in your children is to practice creating healthier anger in yourself. Try mindfulness exercises to start feeling more comfortable being angry. It's our resistance to anger that often makes our anger worse. Once you're better at experiencing anger and expressing it in a healthy way—a way that isn't passive-aggressive or an explosion of rage—you'll be able to model a good anger style for your kids.
    F. Some kids deal with anger by creating a 'false self': a child who is perfect for their parents. If you still use this coping skill as an adult, the result can be catastrophic. Inside a false self, you become separated from your true feelings. While you never express anger openly, the 'true you' inside has to deal with all those repressed emotions. People who have developed a false self are often passive aggressive and seem shallow because they've tucked away all the feelings that would give them depth and character.
    G. Preventing kids from expressing their feelings may also create shame. While you feel guilt when you think you've done something wrong, you feel shame when you believe you yourself are wrong. Children can't separate their feelings from their self-image, so when they express their feelings and are told that it's 'nothing to cry about,' they come to the conclusion that they themselves are bad.
    H. How do we keep kids from creating false selves or from believing that they should be ashamed of their feelings? We need to raise them in an environment where it's safe to express feelings. Once you feel more comfortable with your own anger, you can teach your children why anger is a helpful emotion. When your kid expresses anger, help them examine what it is that has made them angry. Why did it make them angry? How did it do that? Then, you can teach them that while emotions are never wrong and are always valid, our expressions of our emotions are within our control.
    I. Parenting styles that teach children to stuff their anger creates adults who are bursting at the seams with repressed emotions. People who are afraid of their own anger will never learn how to listen to what their anger is trying to tell them. Instead of teaching our kids that their anger is wrong, that 'happy families' are never angry, or that all feelings of anger lead to violence and fear, we can teach our children that anger is OK. Anger is natural, it is normal, and it can be experienced and expressed in a healthy way.
问答题     The author held that 'stop crying' will probably negatively affect children's mental health in the future.
 
【正确答案】B
【答案解析】该句意为:作者认为令孩子“别哭”可能会对其将来的心理发展产生消极影响。 由句中的关键词stop crying,可以定位到B段。该段第二句话提到,虽然让你的孩子“别哭”本身并非是在虐待他,但孩子在以后的人生中可能仍然需要一些帮助来解决其心理问题。
问答题     Kid's good anger style is formed by parents' healthier anger.
 
【正确答案】E
【答案解析】该句意为:孩子能良好地解决愤怒的方式产生自父母的良性愤怒情绪。 该题是对E段的综合概述。该段第一句话提到,要让孩子形成良性的愤怒情绪,你自己应该率先实践。该段最后一句话提到,你就为你的孩子树立了一个良好的应对愤怒情绪的榜样。
问答题     The kids who are asked to restrain their anger would be ashamed of showing their true feelings.
 
【正确答案】G
【答案解析】该句意为:被要求抑制愤怒情感的孩子会在表达真实感情时感到羞耻。 由句中的关键词restrain their anger,be ashamed of定位到G段。该段第一句话提到,阻止孩子表达愤怒情绪也会使孩子产生羞耻感。该段第二句话提到,当你觉得自己做错了的时候,会产生罪恶感。
问答题     Children should be taught that anger is natural.
 
【正确答案】I
【答案解析】该句意为:应该教孩子认识到愤怒是自然的。 该题是对I段最后两句话的综合概述。最后两句话提到,不如教育我们的孩子愤怒没有错。愤怒是自然的,是很普通的情感表达,并且可以用健康的方式表达。
问答题     When parents see their child lose his/her temper, they will feel extremely awful.
 
【正确答案】A
【答案解析】该句意为:当父母看见自己的孩子情绪失控时,他们会感觉极其糟糕。 该题是A段第三句的同义表达。第三句提到,看见自己的孩子生气则令我们感到难以忍受。
问答题     Before one's mind suffering well recovers, he must experience a healing process.
 
【正确答案】C
【答案解析】该句意为:要使某人的情感创伤痊愈,他必须经历修复的过程。 由句中的关键词healing process定位到C段。该段第五句话提到,要让心灵创伤痊愈,你也需要让自己经历一段修复过程。
问答题     Help kids to find out the reasons of anger is of great significance for them to control their emotions.
 
【正确答案】H
【答案解析】该句意为:帮助孩子找出愤怒的原因对于他们控制情绪十分重要。 该题是对H段的综合概述。该段第四句话提到,当你的孩子表达愤怒的时候,帮助他们找到愤怒的原因。该段最后一句话提到,你要告诉他们情绪是没有对错之分的,这些情绪的产生是有原因的,我们可以控制情绪的表达。
问答题     Children's way of tackling anger is probably similar to their parents.
 
【正确答案】D
【答案解析】该句意为:孩子处理愤怒的方式与他们的父母相似。 该题是对D段的综合概述。该段提到,如果孩子没有见过父母表达愤怒,那父母实际上就在教育孩子也绝不能表达愤怒,如果有家长总是以大声、有害的方式表达自己的愤怒,或是父母之间存在暴力行为,那么他们的孩子往往就会觉得发怒十分可怕。
问答题     It is known that the heal of physical wound can't be separated from the body's natural process.
 
【正确答案】C
【答案解析】该句意为:众所周知,身体创伤的恢复必须经历身体的自然过程。 由句中的关键词heal of physical wound,natural process可以定位到C段。该段第三句话提到,为了让受伤的手指复原,你得让身体的自然机制运转起来。
问答题     People will not be positive if they have 'false self' due to the fact that they hide all the emotions that would give them depth and character.
 
【正确答案】F
【答案解析】该句意为:如果人们有“虚假自我”的认识,他们就会表现得不积极,因为他们隐藏了能拓宽深度和塑造品格的情绪。 由句中的关键词false self可以定位到F段。该段最后一句话提到,那些建立了“虚假自我”的人往往会表现出消极抵抗的状态,并且显得比较肤浅,因为他们将所有能拓宽深度和塑造品格的情绪都隐藏起来了。