Mark Twain once said, "When I was fourteen years old, I was amazed at how unintelligent my father was. By the time I turned twenty-one, I was astounded by how much he had learned in the last seven years." Almost without fail, every teenager experiences this phrase at some point during his or her growing up years and the same to me. Recalling to this, it is really a period of the awkward age, which is the reverse psychology in puberty. During the adolescence, we have ourselves' special and mental characteristics.
Mark Twain's changing feelings toward his father demonstrates when we are fourteen years old, we have mature physical development, but possess the physical condition of our little knowledge; we have thought to be independent, but are economically independent. Usually we believe we are smarter and even more reasonable than our parents. While when we grow up to twenty-one, we become more mature in logical thinking and social knowledge, and gradually realize how much intelligent our parents are.
How does the reverse psychology in puberty become a positive factor in our teen's growth and development? First, we should try to communicate more with our parents. If we communicate with parents and get the right guide, then the child's psychological conflicts would be far less mental confusion. Second, given the fact that cognitive ability of children is far more immature before they reaching the puberty age, parents accordingly will guide them how to perceive the world at a very beginning phase, such as how to distinguish right from wrong, how to show personal respects and how to foster social conscience. Therefore, what is being taught by parents certainly lays a solid foundation for their later development as young adults. Third, we should believe that youth is a precious gift and a golden time in our life. If we waste our youth, we will spend the rest of our lives wishing we could be young again.