填空题
What does it mean to relax? Despite
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thousands of times during the course of our lives,
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have deeply considered what it"s really about.
When you ask people what it means to relax, most will answer in a way that suggests that relaxing is something you
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—you do it on vacation, in a hammock,
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, or when you get everything done. This implies, of course, that most other times should
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, agitated, rushed, and frenzied. Very few actually come out and say no, but this is
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. Could this explain why so many of us operate as if life were one great
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? Most of us postpone relaxation until our "in-basket"
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. Of course it never is.
It is useful to think of relaxation as
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that you can access on a regular basis rather than something
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some later time. You can relax now. It"s helpful to remember that relaxed people can still be
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and, in fact, that
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go hand in hand. When I"m feeling upright, for example, I don"t even
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. But when I feel relaxed, my writing
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.
Being more relaxed
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training yourself to
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to the dramas of life, turning your melodrama into a mellow drama. It comes, in part, from
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over and over again (with loving kindness and patience) that you
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in how you respond to life. You can learn to relate to your thinking as well as
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in new ways. With practice, making these choices
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a more relaxed self.