In the midst of a glorious summer day, I returned home to find my husband 【A1】______, legs dangling off our bed, looking for the world as【A2】______ he had lost his best friend. In a way, he had. When queried about his mood, he simply 【A3】______, “Everybody hates me.” We had been experiencing【A4】______ of those weeks as parents when nobody understands the language you’re speaking — and it was taking 【A5】______ toll!

My husband is not prone 【A6】______ moodiness, or worrying too much about【A7】______ likes him and who doesn’t. The military taught him that【A8】______ over the course of more than twenty【A9】______. His last assignment in the military was 【A10】______ a Company Commander training recruits in the basic rudiments of the military way. This particular【A11】______ demands a no nonsense style of authority and discipline—and he 【A12】______ this well. Why then were a few 【A13】______ giving him so many problems?

While doing his job, Paul understood that recruits are not supposed to【A14】______ you when doing your job well — one of the qualities that【A15】______ him outstanding at his job. Unfortunately, Paul, like most【A16】______ parents, expects to discipline their children and have 【A17】______ like us; not only 【A18】______ that expectation unrealistic, it can make us terribly ineffective at our jobs as parents. In the long【A19】______, it is the guideline we lay down for children 【A20】______ cultivates a lasting love, respect and security as they grow.