单选题
I suppose that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention, and especially if it"s given from the heart. When people are talking, there"s no need to do anything but receive them. Listen to what they"re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it. Most of us don"t value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simple saying "I"m so sorry." when someone is in pain.
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to her. Subtly, her pain became a story about themselves. Eventually she stopped talking to most people. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen, they know we care.
I have ever learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the handkerchiefs, until I realized that passing a person a handkerchief may be just another way to shut him down, to take them out of their experience of sadness. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there with them.
This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very young. I thought people listened only because they were too shy to speak or did not know the answer. But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words.
单选题
What does the author value most in the communication with each other?
【正确答案】
C
【答案解析】[解析] 事实细节题。题干问：作者认为在交流中，下列哪项最为重要。从第一段第三句“...is our attention, and especially if it"s given from the heart.”和倒数第二、三句“Most times caring about it is even more important than under standing it. Most of us don"t value ourselves or our love enough to know this.”可知，来自内心的关心比理解他们所说的更为重要。所以答案为C。
单选题
The woman"s patient stopped telling her story to most people because ______.
单选题
If you hand a handkerchief to someone crying, you may ______.
【正确答案】
D
【答案解析】[解析] 推理判断题。题干问：如果别人在哭的时候你向他递手绢的话，那会怎么样。从第三段第二句中的“...until I realized that passing a person a handkerchief may be just another way to shut him down, to take them out of their experience of sadness.”可知，你在试图阻止他，让他无法继续排解他的忧伤。所以此处应选D。
单选题
It can be inferred from the passage that while communicating, ______.