We all have problems and barriers that block our progress or prevent us from moving into new areas. When that happens, consider the following three ways of dealing with a 1. One way is to pretend it doesn't exist. 2it, deny it, and lie about it. However, this approach leaves the barrier 3. A second approach is to fight the barrier. This often 4the barrier's magnitude. The more one struggles, the 5the problem gets. The third 6is to love the barrier. Accept it. Totally experience it. Tell the 7about it. When you do this, the barrier 8its power. Suppose one of your barriers is being afraid of 9in front of a group. You can use any of these three approaches. First, you can 10you're not afraid about speaking in public. The second way is to 11the barrier. You could tell yourself, "I'm not scared," and then try to keep your knees from knocking. Generally, this doesn' t 12. The third approach is to get up and look out into the 13, and say to yourself, "Yup, I'm scared and that's OK. I'm going to 14 this speech even though I'm scared. " And you might discover if you examine the fear, accept it, and totally 15it, the fear itself also 16. Remember two ideas: First, loving a problem is not necessarily the same as 17it. Love in this sense means total and unconditional acceptance. Second, "unconditional acceptance" is not the same as unconditional 18. Often the most effective 19come when we face a problem squarely—diving into it headfirst and getting to know it in 20.