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We"ve all heard how important it is to set and track goals. It"s now common to hear people refer to their "bucket lists". But after setting all those goals, we"re often faced with a hard truth: we will not have enough money to reach all our goals.
A few weeks ago, I spoke with someone about her bucket list. With tears in her eyes, she told me she finally realized that she might not ever have the money to do some of the things on her list.
Yet this same person appeared to live a life that many would consider a dream. She participated in her community and enjoyed meaningful work. Life wasn"t bad in any measurable way.
The question is what do we do about it? Can we avoid it?
I suggest something radical. I believe it"s time we let go of outcome-based goal setting and instead focus on the process of living the lives we want right now. Letting go of outcome-based goals can bring us freedom.
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This is a very important article that comes to me at a time in life when these lessons really resonate (共鸣).
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Goals can be a great method of changing habits, but every list needs to be maintained, and that can mean weeding out even the most laudable (值得赞赏) of goals if it isn"t really in line with the life of the person.
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The problem with long-term goals is that we often just set them, but don"t spend the time and effort to find out the right path to reach them.
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I think the most disturbing thing is measuring ourselves against each other"s statuses, material possessions etc. This makes you eventually feel underappreciated even though you are not. And then it makes you want things. And when you get it, you start to measure yourself against the bigger car your neighbor has got. And then...
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Keep your goals top-of-mind by making them visible. I am a big fan of the sticker-chart—yes, the same thing your mom might have used when you were a kid for potty training and chores. I love seeing my stickers add up. Added bonus, I keep mine on the fridge so I am reminded of my goals every time I reach for a meal or snack.
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We"re competitive. We like to compare ourselves to other people. We love to race to see if we"re good enough to win. We"re all striving for happiness. But we don"t have units of happy we can measure. I think in some instances we"ve substituted measuring money for happiness even though few people have set the explicit goal of having more money than the next person.
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Another way to enjoy is to rent rather than buy. Yet another strategy is to buy something, enjoy it for a while, then sell it. Even real estate. Turn it over every so often if that fits your plan.
There are solutions if you really want something, most of which involve giving something up in exchange for something else. Too many goals may just be cluttering up your life anyway.