The differences between men and women clarify why they have different expectations about communication in marriage. For women, talk【C1】______ intimacy. Marriage is an orgy (狂欢) of【C2】______ : you can tell your feelings and thoughts, and still be loved. Women's greatest fear is being pushed away. But men live in a hierarchical world, where talk maintains independence and statue. They are on【C3】______ to protect themselves from being put down and pushed around. This【C4】______ the paradox of the talkative man who said of his silent wife, "She's the talker." In public settings, he feels challenged to show his intelligence and display his understanding. But at home, where he has【C5】______ to prove and no one to defend against, he is free to remain Silent. For his wife, being home means she is free from the worry that something she says might【C6】______ someone, or spark disagreement, or appear to be showing off; at home she is【C7】______ to talk. The communication【C8】______ that endanger marriage can't be fixed by mechanical engineering. They require a new conceptual framework about the role of talk in human relationships. Many of the psychological explanations may not be【C9】______ , because they tend to blame either women (for not being assertive enough) or men (for not being in touch with their feelings). A sociolinguistic approach in【C10】______ male-female conversation is seen as cross-cultural communication allows us to understand the problem and forge solutions without blaming either party.