【正确答案】Modern psychologists are taken with the "win-win" solution. But in marriage, success lies more in "lose-lose" solution. Out of these, both parties can win. For in love configuration, losing gives a gift that always returns. The key issue in marriage is: Who is going to be in control? Givlng up control is chen confused with weakness. But the winner in a domestic argument is never re- ally the winner. When you win a battle and your partner submits, you have, paradoxically, lost. So remember: if you want to feel loved and respected, give up control. And if you want to win arguments at home, learn to lose them.