单选题
Romance on Campus
A. It seems that almost every college student has stories of colossal romantic disasters during his or her college years, but there are still some tales of true love that would bring Hollywood calling. There are also some universal truths that those of us who have been through the experience tend to agree on. So what generalities can be shared about love on the college campus of the twenty-first century? Let's take a look.
Consider leaving the relationship from home B. Many college freshmen arrive on campus still tied to a boyfriend or girlfriend from high school or summer camp who is now either still at home or off at another college. They limp through part or all of the first semester wracked with guilt about not visiting or calling often enough; or, worse yet, they spend most weekends on the road visiting each other or, worse yet, cheat on the person with someone else, and then these relationships almost invariably explode. For the lucky ones, this happens within the first few weeks of school, allowing the individuals to go on and have rich and productive college lives. For the less fortunate, the relationships endure long enough to ensure that the individuals have lost out on the early-semester opportunities to bond with their roommates and other freshman new to the campus or, worse, to stigmatize (指责，侮辱) the individuals as people who are 'off-limits' due to a girlfriend or boyfriend 'from home.' As a collective group, we don't know of very many couples whose relationships began in high school and survived both individuals' attending different colleges. I'm sure there are examples out there, but the chances of your relationship being one of them are very small. Your chance of being one of the thousands and thousands of so-to-be bitter people who try to make a long-stance relationship work during part of freshman year (or even longer) only to have it fail is very large.
Take our advice C. Have a heart-to-heart talk with your significant other from high school, summer camp, or wherever your relationship began. Talk about the realities, talk about the expense, talk about the inconvenience, and talk about whatever you want to talk about, but make sure that at the end of the talk, you are free to go your separate ways, at least for the first semester.
Those who go looking for love don't find it D. The next area of consensus seems to be that you shouldn't burst on to campus as a freshman and go 'looking' for love—either the serious kind or a casual hookup. It does seem that people can smell desperation a mile away. The best advice here is to be friendly, outgoing, and approachable and, most important of all, to be yourself. Put yourself out on the 'scene' simply by going to parties and other campus events in mixed groups of friends from your freshman dorm. While there, just talk to the people you meet. Forget about using clumsy pickup lines or other clever ploys (策略，手法) to 'figure out' how to begin a conversation. The best way to start a conversation is just to walk up and start the conversation. If there is one thing we all learned from our social experiences in college, it is that everyone is waiting for everyone else to make the first move.
E. If you find yourself interested in someone in one of your classes, strike up an easy, stress-free conversation about the course material. Don't worry about 'losing the deal' in a single day—you have the whole semester to get to know the person, and the rest of college after that. That's the nice thing about college. You know that anyone you meet there is going to be around awhile.
Resist the urge to 'couple up' right away F. The next mistake freshmen seem to make all the time is to look to pair off immediately with the first person who interests them. Resist the urge to do this. Take advantage of this time to meet a lot of people, bond, have some adventures, and make new friends. Chances are, some of these people will end up staying with you through the rest of college and, if you're really lucky, for the rest of your life. Enjoy your newfound freedom awhile before you become connected to another person. Remember that relationships can be isolating. If you couple up right away and start spending all your time with one person, you may find that if that relationship expires, you're lost the opportunity to fall in naturally with a group of friends and you'll then have to work harder to find them.
G. For many of you, freshman year in college will be the first time you can come and go as you please, keep whatever hours you want, hang out with whomever you feel like whenever you feel like it, and explore anything and everything you might want to explore within the bounds of the law and your own sense of morality.
Safeguard your health, your safety, and your reputation H. As we just said, when you get to college, you are free to explore anything and everything you might want to explore within the bounds of the law and your own sense or morality.
I. The problem is that not everyone conform their behavior to the bounds of the law, and people have vastly different senses of morality. Those disconnects can lead to some real perils. Some people are looking for uncomplicated, fleeting encounters without strings or expectations. Some are looking for relationships, or even life partners in connection with those encounters. Some people are good communicators and will let you know what their expectations are. Others won't, and i tcan be hard, particularly in the heat of the moment, to stop to inquire.
J. You would hope that everyone would respect your expectations and whatever boundaries you set up, even on the spur of the moment. But the truth is, not everybody will. It is therefore up to you, at all times, to make your expectations known and to protect your health and safety.
Home for the holidays K. Freshman couples frequently find themselves asking when it is appropriate to bring a new boyfriend or girlfriend home to share a holiday with the family. How you will answer this question is, like many other things romantic, entirely individual, but here are some general guidelines:
L. If you've been dating seriously for less than three months, it is too early. If you haven't spent a weekend away together alone yet, it is too early.
M. If your parents don't yet know you are dating, and if you have not yet met your boyfriend or girlfriend's parents in some other capacity—such as on Parents' Weekend or during some other campus visit—it is probably too early. If, when you really think about it, you're not sure that you want to be in a committed relationship with this person for a long time, it is too early.
N. If you've cheated on this person already, or thought about doing so, it is too early. If one of the reasons you want to invite the person to come home with you is that you want to show him or her off to your high school friends at the Thanksgiving Day game or at church on Christmas Eve, it is too early. If you're not prepared to face questions from your parents about your sexual involvement and to respect the boundaries they impose with respect to sleeping arrangements in their home, it is too early.
O. In other words, if you're still a freshman, chances are, it is too early.