One effective way of destroying happiness is to look at something and focus on even the smallest fault. It's like looking at the tiled ceiling and concentrating on the space where one tile is     1    .
    Once I heard a bald man said, "Whenever I enter a room all I see is hair." Once you've     2    what your missing tile is, explore whether acquiring it will really make you happy. Then do one of the three things: get it, replace it with a different     3    , or forget about it and focus on the tiles in your life that are not missing.
    We all know people who have a relatively     4    life, yet are essentially unhappy while people who have suffered a great deal but generally remain happy.
    The first     5    is gratitude. All happy people are grateful. Ungrateful people cannot be happy. We tend to think that being unhappy leads people to     6    , but it's truer to say that complaining leads to people becoming unhappy.
    The second secret is realizing that happiness is a byproduct of something else. The most obvious     7    are those pursuits that give our lives purpose—anything from studying insects to playing baseball. The more passions we have, the more happiness we are     8    to experience.
    Finally, the belief that something permanent goes beyond us and that our destination has some larger meaning can help us to feel happier. We     9    a spiritual faith, or a philosophy. Whatever your philosophy is, it should include this truth: if you choose to find the     10    in every situation, you will be blessed, and if you choose to find the awful, you will be cursed. As with happiness itself, this largely depends on your decision to make.