填空题
Friendships may not last. Friendships can lose importance and
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. Some friendships end abruptly
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. The worst enemy of friendships is change by
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friends. There is usually pain with the loss of friendship. In fact, friendships end with pain and change.
Many people expect that their friends
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. They expect friendship to last forever. Yet, friendships end and friends
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company every day. Unfortunately, even the best maintained friendships
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.
Many end because of a change
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when friends just drift apart and
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with time. There is a retreat from self-disclosure and seeking out each other"s company. Avoidance begins. The friendship slowly
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and finally disappears.
Bob Carver, Dallas psychotherapist, says, "A friendship or any other relationship fails because of three things:
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, undelivered communication, and/or thwarted attention."
Yet
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to a friendship is change. For example, moving from single life to coupled life has
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. Coupled persons often feel their single friends act interested in them only when
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is not in sight. The single friend may feel
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and withdraw from a world of twosomes. Divorced and widowed people often have a feeling of being abandoned by old friends.
Lillian Rubin in her book "
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" says, "Thus generally it"s true that friends accept each other
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they both remain essentially the same as they were when they met, or change in similar directions. If they
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in different or incompatible ways, the friendship most likely will be lost."
Regardless of why, when, or
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, there is always some pain of loss to assimilate. When nothing can be done to
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, it is important to grieve and
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fully. Then move on to enhance another friendship or build entirely new friendships.