填空题 We long for love, connection, and understanding, but oftentimes we don"t know how to create it. Growing up in a goal-oriented society, we may develop a mindset that helps us 1 business, but doesn"t do much to create safe and satisfying relationships. Pushing ourselves to work harder and 2 our viewpoints may increase sales figures or professional triumphs, but too much focus on success can be contrary to love and 3 .
Perhaps you"ve noticed how any hint of trying to control, persuade, or 4 others pushes them away and creates distance. Inviting people toward us requires a different mindset. We create a 5 soil for connections by first connecting with ourselves. This means being mindful of what we"re experiencing from moment to moment.
Our perceptions of others may remain fixed, but our inner experience is 6 changing. One moment we may feel angry. Then, if we stay with that anger, we might notice deeper and truer feelings underlying it. Perhaps sadness or fear 7 , along with a courageous willingness—and hear what it might be trying to tell us.
It"s easier to see another"s flaws than to recognize our own blind spots. What"s often 8 to us—and the hidden key to resolution—is noticing and sharing what we"re actually experiencing inside. Relationship 9 are not like fixing a plumbing problem, where we need to focus on the external problem. When it comes to relationships, we need to keep the focus on ourselves. That is, we need to notice or 10 what we"re genuinely feeling and wanting.