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    A. No one likes getting criticism. But it can be a chance to show off a rare skill: taking negative feedback (反馈)well. It is a skill that requires practice, humility and a sizable dose of self-awareness. But the ability to learn from criticism fuels creativity at work, studies show, and helps the free flow of valuable communication.
    B. Tempering an emotional response can be hard, especially 'if you're genuinely surprised and you're getting that flood of anger and panic,' says Douglas Stone, a lecturer at Harvard Law School and co-author of 'Thanks for the Feedback.'
    C. Gillian Florentine was stunned when a supervisor at a previous employer accused her of working 'under the cover of darkness.' She was gathering internal data for a proposal she planned to present to him on scheduling flexibility for information-technology employees, says Ms. Florentine, a Pittsburgh human-resources consultant. She knew she should respond calmly, acknowledge that she sometimes made decisions on her own and ask specifically what had upset him. Her emotional response overrode her judgment, however. 'I was like, 'Are you kidding me?'' she says. 'I felt offended and personally hurt,' and responded in an angry tone. Ms. Florentine later smoothed over the rift and promised to keep the boss better informed. But she told him that his wording had 'felt like a personal attack on my integrity.'
    D. Many employees don't get much practice receiving negative feedback, managers say. It is out of fashion, for one thing: Some 94% of human-resources managers favour positive feedback, saying it has a bigger impact on employees' performance than criticism, according to a 2013 survey of 803 employers by the Society for Human Resource Management and Globoforce. Performance reviews are infrequent, with 77% of employers conducting them only once a year.
    E. When people are criticized, the strong feelings that follow can be tough to control. 'If you end up in a puddle of tears, that's going to be the memorable moment,' says Dana Brownlee, founder of Professionalism Matters, Atlanta, a corporate-training company.
    F. If tears well up or you feel yourself becoming defensive, ask to wait 24 hours before responding, says Brad Karsh, president of JB Training Solutions, Chicago, a consulting and training company. 'Say, 'thank you very much for the feedback. What I'd like to do is think about it.''
    G. People react badly to feedback for one of three reasons, says Mr. Stone: The criticism may seem wrong or unfair. The listener may dislike or disrespect the person giving it. Or the feedback may rock the listener's sense of identity or security.
    H. Some people distort feedback into a devastating personal critique. Mr. Stone suggests writing down: 'What is this feedback about, and what is it not about?' Then, change your thinking by eliminating distorted thoughts. 'The goal is to get the feedback back into the fight-sized box' as a critique of specific aspects of your current performance, he says.
    I. Mr. Stone recalls a meeting years ago where a client tossed down on the table a report he and his colleague and co-author Sheila Heen had written and yelled, 'This is a piece of s—!' Mr. Stone says his heart sank: 'I'm thinking, 'This meeting is not going well.'' But Ms. Heen had a comeback: 'When you say s—, could you be more specific? What do you mean?' The questions touched off a useful two-hour discussion, Mr. Stone says. Ms. Heen confirms the account.
    J. 'What' questions, such as 'What evidence did you see?' tend to draw out more helpful information, says productivity-training consultant Garrett Miller. Questions that begin with 'why,' such as, 'Why are you saying that?' breed resentment and bog down the conversation, says Mr. Miller, chief executive of CoTria, Tranquility, N.J.
    K. It is tempting to dismiss criticism from a boss you dislike. Lori Kleiman, a speaker and author on human-resource issues in Chicago, finished a sales call several years ago by signing up a new client. A manager who had been listening in called afterward, congratulated her, then delivered a critique: Ms. Kleiman said 'like' too often while talking to the client. Ms. Kleiman felt angry at the call, because she felt this manager frequently 'one-upped' her, and at first dismissed the feedback, she says. But after some thought, she saw that the manager was right. As a result, she says, she began to choose her words more carefully and broke the habit.
    L. Extra restraint is needed if a boss or colleague issues a critique in a meeting in front of others. 'Don't create a scene. Just nod and keep a smile,' says Mr. Karsh. Later, acknowledge the feedback, but explain that it wasn't appropriate or helpful to receive it in front of others. Ask that in the future, 'we have those discussions one-on-one,' he says.
    M. Employees tend to become less defensive if they receive frequent feedback, says Catalina Andrade, training and benefits manager at Tris3ct, a Chicago marketing agency. Tris3ct trains managers to give frequent, direct feedback and to show understanding while doing so.
    N. Some feedback may actually be out of line with your performance or character. It is fair to ask a supervisor about the basis for the critique, Mr. Karsh says. If the boss hasn't bothered to gather estimations from co-workers, clients or customers who know and depend on your work, it may be all fight to ask that their evaluations be included.
    O. After reflecting on feedback for a while, however, most people realize, 'I can totally see why someone would say that,' Mr. Karsh adds. Mr. Miller, the productivity consultant, says he was angry when a boss on a previous job scolded him for hosting an informal team strategy meeting the night before an all-employee conference. The meeting was productive. But the boss criticized Mr. Miller, reminding him of the boss's directive that no conference gatherings were to begin until the next day. 'I was screaming in my mind,' Mr. Miller says, but he kept quiet. After some thought, he realized that 'it wasn't about whether I made a good business decision. It was about his authority.' He called the boss and left a voice-mail apology, saying he should have cleared his plans in advance. 'All feedback has some truth in it,' even if only to reveal how others think, Mr. Miller says. Before dismissing it, ask yourself, 'What I can learn from this?'

问答题     Employees will not so defensive if they receive constant feedback.

问答题     It's very hard to control one's response towards criticism, especially when you are very angry.

问答题     Most employees don't get much negative feedback because most managers think positive feedback has better effect on people than negative feedback.

问答题     When Ms. Florentine was accused by her boss she felt deeply hurt and responded in an angry tone but she latter she calmed down and reacted reasonably.

问答题     Mr. Karsh said sometimes the feedback may be not true and in that case you can ask your supervisor the cause of his criticism.

问答题     Some people distort feedback into a personal criticism but the fight way to treat the feedback is treating it as a criticism of specific aspects of your present work.

问答题     There is always some kind of truth behind feedback even if it only shows how others think of you so we should think what we can learn from it.

问答题     There are three reasons which may cause people feel angry on hearing negative feedback.

问答题     Learning from criticism is a useful skill which is very hard to master but it also adds creativity at work and facilitates valuable communication.

问答题     People often want to dismiss the criticism from a person they dislike and Ms. Kleiman once dismissed a criticism from a manager but later she found the manager was right.